By: Mark Berzins
This is the one book every mom should slip into her daughter’s duffle bag before she leaves for college. It’s the wisdom no one teaches in the classroom, but should: how to make smart dating choices that will lead to happiness. This is ‘The Talk’ every girl needs to hear, but won’t listen to if it comes from her own parent!
Remember the name Mark Berzins—he is as eloquent, passionate, informative, empowering, self-aware, funny, entertaining, and insightful as they come. He understands what makes men tick, what women want, and what all of us really need on our journey to find love and happiness.
Mark and I were roommates at Stanford, and even then, he struck me as one of the only guys who understood chivalry. Plus, he is a man with a conscience, so he's not afraid to dish about the worst (and best) characteristics of the male of the species. Most Guys Are Losers will be required reading before my daughter heads to college.
As one of the largest bar operators in the Rocky Mountains, I have seen firsthand the wreckage of a thousand failed relationships…most of them caused by men. So what advice about men would I give to my own daughters as they head off to college and out into the adult dating world? First, I would have to be brutally honest – things are not that rosy out there. Most men are Losers. Next, I would need to provide a road map for success – Good Men are out there. There is hope. Finally, I would write it down so I could be much more frank than I could ever be in conversation. Well, I did just that. Then I gave it to my oldest daughter for her high school graduation. When my middle daughter was slated to graduate this spring, I decided to publish it. Here it is.
Single women head out into the dating world every day full of hope. They should be more cautious. Men, especially the Losers, are the single largest threat to their physical and mental well-being. All women, but young women in particular, need to be better informed and a little more careful. The cautionary tales are out there (recent NFL abuse scandals, the “It’s On Us” Campus Campaign, Allstate Foundation’s Purple Purse), but women don’t seem to be hearing from anyone whose advice they will heed. The men I know… the fathers I know…the parents I know - all want their young women to pay attention. They also want them to find a safe and happy relationship. Who better to deliver the message than a dad who has his own daughters? A dad who has seen it all? That is Most Guys Are Losers.